Thursday, January 5, 2012

2012 Improvement - 30 Things To Stop Doing To Yourself

I found this article and just had to share it!
(I have posted excerpts - please take the time to read the original article with all of the comments) :
  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.
  2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy.
  3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.
  4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.
  5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.
  6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
  7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.
  8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us.
  9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
  10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.
  11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period!
  12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
  13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.
  14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
  15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
  16. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
  17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.
  18. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”
  19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
  20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.
  21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
  22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
  23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.
  24. Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.
  25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well.
  26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
  27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.
  28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
  29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
  30. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

It's all great advice.


Joe Visconti said...

Amen Judy

Anonymous said...

Good list.

I would add; 31. With your morning cup of coffee make a list of what you want to accomplish that day in the order of importance. It is difficult to succeed if you aren't sure where you are going and what you want to accomplish.

Anonymous said...

These all sound good and wise but there is only one problem, If you were forced to enter the Vietnam conflict and then had a quarter pound of red hot steel rip through your body and then washed down with agent orange it is hard to be positive. When you return home and have people you thought were your friends spit in your face and throw trash at you as they call you a baby killer it is hard to positive. When you are used for inhumane test by the doctors you are forced to use because you can't find a job with health insurance because you are disabled from doing what you were told was your duty it is hard to be positive. When your 8 year old daughter is raped and sodomized by a trusted friend and then find that your wife has been servicing him instead of you then takes your children and leaves with a drug dealer and you never see them again it is hard to be positive. When you find out that you can no longer work because of your service to your disrespecting country and now forced to live in houses that are condemned because you suffer from what you did in the service and see the faces of the men you have killed every time you close your eyes it is hard to be positive. When finally you end up homeless and every one turns their back on you even the ones that are paid to render service then it is hard to be positive and might I add sane. The next time you put on your little rose colored glasses please think about those who have served this country and the fact that their lives have been turned inside out by doing what most would never comprehend.

Judy Aron said...

Wow - if that's your life then you have my sympathy, and if indeed you have served and have been trampled upon I send my thanks for your service and regrets for your treatment. It's shameful how this country treats its veterans.

In any case, God gives us all challenges. Everyone has misery in their life. You have to do your best with it, don't you think? You trudge on and find some joy somewhere, otherwise you just make your life a very dark place. What's the sense in that?

I don't have rose colored glasses - but I DO believe in making lemonade when life hands you lemons.

I wish you the best and hope that you can put some things behind you and find some happiness in life.